quinta-feira, 15 de abril de 2010

Sobre a natureza do homem paquistanes....

Oi pessoas...=)))

Como voces podem ver, nossa amiga e colaboradora do blog, a Sehrish, esta a todo vapor....Ela me mandou varios novos artigos que vou publicar aos poucos, para que cada um possa ser bem assimilado e se for o caso, discutido...

Gostaria de salientar, que esses artigos podem conter opinioes que talvez sejam um pouco controversas ao nosso modo de pensar e que talvez causem algum tipo de indignacao em algumas (feministas talvez...)...Ou nao! Mas de qualquer forma, entendam que eles sao escritos a partir do ponto de vista de uma garota paquistanesa, que nasceu e foi criada aqui e absolutamente nao conhece o modo de vida ocidental na pratica..E isso que ela esta falando, eh exatamente como acontece aqui...

Entao, argumentacoes nao soh sao muito bem vindas como esperadas... mas apenas gostaria de solicitar que em caso de discordancia em qualquer topico, que prevaleca o respeito e que mantenhamos uma discussao saudavel e proveitosa, sem nenhum tipo de ofensa ok?? Qualquer resposta mal criada e/ou ofensiva  sera sumariamente deletada...

A intencao aqui eh unica e exclusivamente ajudar as 29488567790923094576 de mulheres que amam um paquistanes, a entenderem um pouco mais sobre a cultura, religiao e o que passa na cabeca desses seres que andam tirando o sono e o sossego de muita garota (e as vezes nem tao garotas assim hehe) do lado de lah da linha do Equador lol

Confiram:

Assalam-o-Alikum & hi again!

 How you all readers??? I am fine by the grace of Allah.

 Here I am with a new topic with different views and discussions. The main purpose of this article is to let you people know (especially girls who want to marry Paki boys) about nature, psychology, thinking and attitude of boys towards his wives either it will be their love marriage or arranged. 

All males are almost had same characteristics. As I mentioned in my previous articles that Islam is a very single religion who gave a lot of respect to women. Let me tell you this all from different example. I will give you some tips to spend a happy married life. 

All human beings are equal, but men are "superior" to women in all aspect, in power, in thinking, by body, by stamina and so on. So that men always like to be a boss whether they will soft or hard by nature.

 They like and want to be rule over all. That is why it is said that if women want to build her home and long lasting relationship then she have to compromise with her husband. 

Here in Pakistan you can see many example that how women build their homes, relationships by doing compromise. A very famous quote is frequently said here in Pakistan…. “Bend branch of any tree always give more fruits rather than a straight branch”...

Why it is said like this??? It is because, a bend branch is bearing burden of fruits, birds, bees are sit on it and hurt it, children through stones on it to have those fruits and so on. These all ways hurts the branch of tree. On the other hand which branch is fruitless but straight no one can see towards it and just use it when they need it. Now if we apply same example in our real life then you can see that always hurting hearts had a lot of respects in front of all. Because they have made many compromises to get a place in other’s heart. 

One more famous quote is “If every one is happy with you it means that you have made many compromises in your life” ...So now question is that can compromise give a happy married life??? If anybody asks me then I say “YES”

Let me explain you some bad and good things of Paki boys:

 First of all they all are very loving, caring and give a lot of respect to women. If they once decided to make anyone his wife, then they can do any thing for her. Because then they make their wives part of their life. They give them love, care, security and most important is respect. They do not like break ups they want to run their life smoothly without any quarrel. They likes that their wives stay at home take care of their kids and home and when they came back to home she welcomes him with a smile.

 It is also said in Pakistan that “A smile of women and laughter of baby can remove men’s tiredness” How sweet it is…??? Isn’t it…!!!

 In short men want a complete happy life from their wives. Paki men want sincerity, love, care, understanding and most important thing is compromise from women. It does not matter that marriage would be love or arrange, men needs are same. 

Now I will move forward toward bad things about Paki men.

 First of all if it is love marriage then they differentiate between Girl Friend and wife. It’s natural that when Girl Friend became wife their attitudes become changed now they are more possessive, little bit hard and become conservative too. 

Second thing is whether he is not well educated or jobless or not handsome etc but he always likes to be superior. Usually Paki boys like their dominance in every field of life. 90% men do not compromising so that women should have to be compromising. Sometimes they do not understand but expect that understanding must show from other side (mean from wife). Sometimes they do not know how to keep balance between their wives and parents. 

Now let me tell you some do have and don’ts for those girls who want to marry Paki boys.

Do’s and Don’ts:

1.       Always try to understand what your husband wants from you and try your level best to do same thing whenever he wants.
2.       Always behave like a compromising wife.
3.       Give him some time to spend with his parents.
4.       Always respect elders so that your this act may increase your respect in his heart.
5.       Change your likeness and dislikeness in your husband’s likeness and dislikeness.
6.       Do not impose your likeness and dislikeness every time on him but sometimes.
7.       Love him less but understand him more.
8.       Use “WE” behavior instead of “I”.
9.       Try to learning good dishes which your husband likes.
10  When your husband is flare up or angry neither talk to him for such a long time nor try to impose your decision immediately. Just wait for him to be calm then tell him your thinking that what you want  he must be agree with you at that timeJ
11  Do not weep every time on very minor issues.
12    Give respect and take respect
13    Do not make so much expectation because expectation always hurt.
14    Do not perform any act for reward just does it for your satisfaction.

In short the moral of this long story is the key of happy married life is to have “Compromise” and “Trust”. 

Trust is very very important element to keep your relation long lasting. I will give you a key now game is in your hand. Other these tips you can spend happy life by using your beauty and other tricks which you better understand to handle your husband. lolz….

Allah Hafiz & Good Bye!

8 comentários:

Mariachiquinha disse...

Embora emu inglês seja ruim, e meu website translater não seja lá essas coisas todas, é muito claro o que a menina (esqueci o nome agora, desculpa) coloca.

O que ela cita,nada mais é do que o modo como, principalmente, as nossas avós viveram e passaram esses ensiamentos que caíram no desuso por aqui.

Não tem como construir uma vida a dois, conjugando o verbo na primeira pessoa do singular.

Ótimas dicas, náo somente para relacionamento entre brasileiras e paquistaneses, como para qualquer outro tipo de relaçao.

Mari disse...

Eve, mt legal essa sua idéia de compartilhar o que uma paquistanesa pensa e dividir a visão dela com suas leitoras :)

To Sehrish- I like reading your articles a lot. I loved the said "A smile of woman and laughter of baby can remove men’s tiredness".

I think it is trully beatiful the family values in islamic culture. The turkish people are also very connected to the family matters, and the man are very respectful towards the family.

I just dont think men are always superior. We women can be "superior" in many situations. While they are phisically stronger, women can handle more pain than a man. While they are very objective, we can do many things at the same time. The feminine mind is very creative and undoubtly intelligent. In panic situations, women tend to think faster than man to find solutions...So I think man and woman would rather be considered as equals in capacities, but each one with their own abilities.

best regards,Mari :)))

Sehrish disse...

Asalam-o-Alikum & hi!
Thanks for nice discussion in english bcz i did not understant your language..:-)
Actually as Islam dipict that male is superior over female by born...but modern thinking could not accept this view..because now women are doing equally work with men...anyways...
Mishal please now translate it for me...
I'm waiting...
Take Care to all!

jo disse...

nossa! muito bom mesmo. obrigada pelas dicas e esclarecimentos. ótimo! estou anciosa pela próxima postagem.

Marcmel disse...

Hi, Sehrish!! God bless you!!
So, your article is very interesting!I know you post many interesting things, but I really want know something: How is really way pakistani relationship before marriage?The boy I was in relation is doctor(medical estudent) and he did not have much time to talk...he and me..and sometimes he had some attitudes and when you commented in your post:"Love him less but undestand him more"...So, I don't want expose my personal feelings here, but I hope you undestand me..I will send you my asks by hotmail, ok!!So, I will wait for your reply!!

Thanks, Marcmel!!

Sehrish disse...

Hi Marcemal!
Actually in Islam there is no reality of relationship between boy and girl before marriage. Islam just allows agreeness of both girl and boy for marriage by heart not by pressure(like sometimes parents, sisters, brothers pressurise for marriage with a specife person).
But if we talk about todays trend its totally different. Now both girl and boy can meet, can talk on phone, internet and many other ways as convinient for one. You can exchange gits too.
But if your bor friend do not have time for you then do not worry...as you told me that he is student of medical so here study for medical student is very tough may be he cant fine enough time to talk with you.

Sehrish disse...

First of all i suggest you you get an eaxt idea about his feelings about you. How he feels about you...how much he cares about you and so on? If he is really good and sincere with you then plesae do not make issue for his busy ness...just calm and relax...try to be with him always...try to understand him and give him space too. But please do not make this all in such a way that he stop caring you or stary ignoring you..:-( try to keep balance in every situation...Its a nature of paki guys that if they are rude with you or do not care for you and you are still caring of them then they will stary caring you...:-)
Wish you very good luck for your marriage life with your love!Lots of prayers for you!
Keep questioning me....

Iseedeadpeople disse...

"All human beings are equal, but men are "superior" to women in all aspect, in power, in thinking, by body, by stamina and so on. So that men always like to be a boss whether they will soft or hard by nature."

I stopped my reading when I read this absurd! Dont wanna spoil my day.

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